Um… a weird thing for me to update on, but obviously I needed to say something. Today the NY Times published a story revealing abuse allegation by one of my favorite musicians, Ryan Adams.
I’m obviously very disturbed and saddened by the stories of the women who have talked to the NYT. Although Ryan denies all charges, I believe the women who have come forward.
I’m so sad to think that when I excitedly watched Mandy Moore perform in NYC in 2009 to promote what would be the last album she has released thus far, that she was at the start of what would be a harrowing six years of marriage to Ryan Adams in which she says she was mentally and verbally abusive towards her.
For longtime Ryan Adams such as myself, we are faced with the question, what should we do now? Obviously it would be difficult for me to ever feel good about going to any more of his concerts. Do I never listen to his music again? Do I set a giant bonfire to all my Ryan related items?
I even posed the question to Twitter:
There must be a guide on how to best destroy all the paraphernalia you’ve accumulated once one of your fave musicians is exposed as a terrible, controlling woman abuser. Please send help. #ryanadams pic.twitter.com/wy0cppvNyc
— laura new denizen (@themodernageorg) February 14, 2019
I’m still trying to process this information and decide what to do going forward.
Friends – what do you plan on doing (if anything) in response to this news? How has this changed your relationship with his music and your memories of going to his shows?